Safety & consent
Safe, Sane, Consensual: Safety on Sub Dom Finder
BDSM runs on trust. Here’s how Sub Dom Finder protects yours: the tools the platform runs, the rules every member plays by, and what to do before you meet anyone in person.
Our rule
Consent is the kink
Every scene, every dynamic and every message on Sub Dom Finder rests on enthusiastic, informed consent between adults. Limits are respected. Safewords are honoured. “No” ends the conversation. Anyone who can’t live with that doesn’t belong here.
How the platform protects you
The tools working in the background
Verification
- ID verification (Blue Tick): optional government ID check with a visible badge.
- Video verification: a live video check with moderators, without sharing documents.
Privacy & control
- Safe usernames: your real name and email are never shown publicly.
- Location privacy: only your nearest town or city, never your address or live location.
- Instant blocking: blocked users can no longer contact you or see you.
- Easy reporting: report users or content quickly from within the site.
A team behind you
- Reports reviewed: every report goes to our support team, not into a void.
- Swift takedowns: a rapid response to requests to remove unauthorised or harmful content.
- Help when you need it: contact support from your account at any time.
Spotted something that worries you? Block first, then report. Our support team will take it from there.
Scams
Never send money to someone you haven’t met
Fake profiles exist on every dating site, and the script is usually the same: a quick connection, then a request for money. Here, power exchange is between consenting adults, not a transaction.
- Don’t send cash, gift cards, crypto or “tribute” to anyone you met here.
- Be wary of anyone who pushes to move the chat off the site straight away.
- Don’t share your address, workplace or financial details early on.
- If it feels off, block and report. Reports are reviewed by our team.
Before you meet
Vet first, talk properly, then play
Talk on the site first
Get a feel for the person. Ask about experience, limits and what they expect.
Meet in public
A bar, a café, a munch. Never a first meeting at someone’s home or a hotel.
Tell a friend
Share where you’re going and who with, and set up a check-in call.
Negotiate before any scene
Hard limits, soft limits, safewords, aftercare. If they won’t discuss them, walk away.
Reporting
Something wrong? Tell us
Report a profile or message from inside the site, or contact our team directly. Content you didn’t consent to can be removed under our complaints policy.
Read our safety standards & child protection policy, our complaints & content removal policy and our consent policy.
Play hard. Play safe.
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