Help & FAQ

Adults aged 18 or over, or 21 or over in Alabama, Mississippi, Nebraska, Wyoming and anywhere else where 18 is not the age of majority. Members must be real people: no bots, no businesses.

Hit Join free, pick your role and set up your profile. It takes a few minutes and costs nothing.

Use the Log in link at the top of any page.

Your role, what you’re looking for, your kinks and your limits. Profiles that are honest about experience and boundaries get better replies.

An optional government ID check. Verified members get a visible badge, which tells others they’re genuine. There’s also an optional video verification with a moderator, without sharing documents.

Checks can take some time. If you’re stuck, contact Support and the team will look into it.

Joining, building your profile and exploring are free. VIP and VIP Plus unlock the full experience. See pricing.

Through Support or the chat bot. You’ll get an email with a link to the cancellation process. Full details on billing & cancelling.

A discreet billing name, chosen so your statement doesn’t give anything away.

Other members. Because we belong to a wider network of dating sites, members of partner sites under the same terms may see it too.

No. Members see a town or city near you, not your street, and never where you are right now. Your real name and email are never shown publicly.

Cancelling a membership doesn’t delete your profile. Deletion is a separate step, explained on your Membership page once you’re logged in.

Block or report directly from their profile or your conversation. Blocked users can no longer contact you or see you.

Do not pay. Block and report them from their profile, then tell us via Contact us if you have already sent anything.